In this wise and endearing book, former New York Times columnist Quindlen (Alternate Sides) addresses the subject of grandparenting, sharing her own experiences and advice. Despite having raised three children, Quindlen admits that as a grandmother, or "Nana"-which she became at age 64-she is "totally green." She dotes on her toddler grandson, Arthur, and has strong opinions about how he should be raised, yet remains cognizant of her proper place; when it comes to decision-making, she observes, she is neither president nor vice president, but something akin to speaker of the house. She concludes that the grandparent's role consists not so much of "doing" as "hanging back" and respecting the parents' choices. The book is filled with Quindlen's playful sense of humor (if her baby daughter had wanted to sleep upside down "like a bat," she would have let her), along with thoughtful reflections on how parenting and grandparenting have changed (for instance, fathers are more involved, there's a lot more baby gear to buy, and more people are living long enough to become grandparents). This heartfelt and delightful work will especially appeal to readers already living within their own versions of "Nanaville." Agent: Amanda Urban, ICM. (Apr.) © Copyright PWxyz, LLC. All rights reserved.

There are really only two commandments of Nanaville: love the grandchildren, and hold your tongue. When Quindlen's oldest son becomes a father, Nana, as she now is called, learns quickly that being a grandparent isn't the same as being a parent. Instead of being a star, she now is in a supporting role. Decisions about preschools, discipline, nutrition, and television shows are no longer hers. Instead she must keep her thoughts to herself (unless asked) and sit back and watch her grandchild's life unfold without expectations. But what an honor to do just that. Since her grandson is a product of both Irish-Italian and Chinese parents, Quindlen now views life through different eyes. In a world filled with multiethnic children, she is surprised to hear well-meaning but actually offensive comments by friends (even positive stereotyping is stereotyping). Grandparenting is new territory for this best-selling novelist and beloved former columnist, and as always in her warmly candid nonfiction, Quindlen voices concerns and celebrates high points with sensitivity and insight. As her life fills with unbreakable dishes, scattered Legos, and bite-sized treats, Quindlen savors a shared book, a held hand, a child's laugh, and a relationship built on mutual love and respect. This tender book should be required reading for grandparents everywhere.HIGH-DEMAND BACKSTORY: Quindlen has established a close rapport with readers as she shares her life experiences, and her latest will thrill loyal fans and draw a new audience.--Candace Smith Copyright 2019 Booklist